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Dating Tips for Men

Khushnuma Irani
It's Friday and tomorrow is your big date with the girl you've been liking for quite sometime. But you are nervous and don't want sweat streaming down your face while talking to her. Here are some tips to make sure your date goes well.
Are you looking for a great idea for a date? And are not sure about the place, what to do and what to say to her? Well, in that case, you will be relieved to know that you are not the only man who has his tongue twisted on what to do on a date.
Most men find it hard to get a date in this busy world, and then to arrange it so as to have a great time, is a task in itself. Creating a good impression will help you get the second chance with her. Here are a few tips.
Choose the Best Ambiance
"You know what adds to the beauty of this place?.... You!"
Epic love tales demand epic settings. Impress your lady by selecting the perfect spot for your date. Opt for tranquil locales where you can cozy up and converse.
Best doesn't mean expensive restaurants, it can be a simple round-the-corner cafe. But it should give you the much-needed privacy. If you are creative, then go ahead and create the ambiance. You can invite some musicians, spread a carpet of petals or book the entire hotel and decorate it.
Present Yourself Well
"It's awesome... with you I can be myself"
No tux required, but cleanliness is key. Shave, groom, and shower. No embarrassing moments, please. And yes, a dash of perfume won't hurt – women love a good scent!
Don't Forget the Gifts
"Love above everything else is the only gift that I can give you.."
Don't forget a gift for your date – it's a winner! Surprise her to score bonus points. Flowers, chocolates, or cute trinkets work wonders, especially for a first date.
In case you know her well, then you can gift her favorite perfume, book, etc. All this will make your date like you even more. Also, arranging for some good romantic music will add to the cause.
Break the Ice
"We have lots of things in common ... that's a great sign!"
You need some good topics to start with. You must know about the latest occurrences in your city. It gives you some topics to talk about. But avoid discussing topics where you are aware that she might not have much to say. This will only project you as someone who brags about his knowledge.
Give her the chance to share her views as well. Also remember that she might be judging you, and good conversational skills is definitely an advantage.
Keep it Light
"Today I caught myself smiling for no reason, and I realized I was thinking about you!"
If humor does not come to you naturally, then it is a good idea to rehearse some funny stories.
It might sound lame, but it will only work in your favor, if you come across as someone who has a great sense of humor. It is not a good idea to crack a joke on some of her habits, it will only annoy her. Clean humor is always welcome and women surely like men who make them laugh.
Shower Her with Compliments
"I had heard that 'beauty with brains' existed. But never thought it was true, until I met you."
Girls love compliments! Compliment her about her choice of dress, her hairstyle, her smile or you can simply compliment her for her looks. Let it come naturally. The girl will know it if you are trying to bluff.
In case you are not impressed with the dress, you can compliment her for the effort. After all, she has made all efforts for you! But do not overdo it. It may appear fake!
Let the Eyes Do the Talking
"If love is a language of the eyes, my eyes speak volumes."
Your love for your date will be clearly seen in your eyes. So, let her read them. Even if you are unable to express your feelings during the date, your eyes will do the talking. Sometimes, silence is indeed golden. It will give a chance to both of you to feel your love for each other without the need of expressing them.
Give Her the Limelight
"You have touched my heart in a way no one did!"
We all love to talk about ourselves and women love it even more. So let the conversation steer around the woman and her interests and life. You can talk about yourself on the next date.
Be Attentive
"The way you are filing in my sentences... it feels like we know each other since ages."
Yes yes you may have heard this a dozen times, but it still doesn't hurt to hear it again does it. Listen to what the woman is saying and make sure you come across as someone who is a great listener. Imagine how put off she will be if she asks you your opinion and you have no idea what she was talking about.
Be Friendly
"I am lucky to have met a wonderful person like you."
Don't start complaining about you being reserved and nervous. It's just not going to cut it if both of you are going to be reserved and no one does the talking. Be friendly, make her comfortable and watch her growing closer to you (in some cases literally).
Don't Say a Plain Goodbye
"I wish... this moment lasted forever."
The other important point to keep in mind is never end your date abruptly. Even if you are done with the dinner and everything that is planned, keep something for those last moments.
Girls don't like plain good-byes. You could create the best last impression by saying something really special. Or you could just compliment her one more time. By doing so maybe, you could end up receiving some compliments for yourself too or may be a kiss as well!

Moves to Avoid

  • Commenting on the attire.
  • Ordering food without consulting her.
  • Talking about your ex.
  • Asking your date to share the bill.
  • Ask her to get herself home.
  • Eying the beautiful lady sitting on the adjacent table. (No matter how beautiful she is!).
  • Eating too much onion or garlic.

The Perfect Date
As mentioned earlier, good backgrounds always work in your favor. Perfect places will give you the much-needed privacy. Here are a few ideas that are less clichéd.
Take Her to a Play
Movies are so yesterday! Opt for a play instead – it's classy and spontaneous. Enjoy some quality conversation amidst live moments.
The best part is, not all plays are houseful, so your privacy is maintained. You can have a dance with her when the music is played. The date can end with a dinner. By the end of it, you will have nothing but good memories.
Have a Homemade Dinner
Why not host dinner at your place? Cook for her and play the perfect host. Keep it simple – the goal is quality time together.
Keep the entire setting simple. Light music in the background will add to the romance. The best part of the dinner will be that there will be no distractions. It will be just the two of you!
Planning the date always helps. But try to do something spontaneous that will surprise your girl. Remember, dates are always special. There are many moments that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Go ahead, create memories.